Thoughts leads to Destiny

Hello, everybody.




That's right, it's the eve of the Lunar New Year!
Let me just wish you all a Happy Lunar New Year first. Today I am going to post about something that everybody would probably experience before. I'm also experiencing it.



Have this ever happen to you?
You find that you can't control everything to go your way? You couldn't stop your parents nagging? You find that you can't stop those irritating friends whom can't stop disurbing you? Or anything of such sort. Does it happens to you all the time?
I bet that it have at least happened for once in your life.

Those thing that we can't control are simply just irritating, so bothersome and sometimes we just want to break down because of that. Let me share with you that sometimes we may not be able to control those things.
However we all have the ability to control ourself from how we react to those events that happen to you. With that, it usually seems to 'control' and change the things that we can't control.
In order to make things easier to visualise and understand, I'll group the things that we can't control into group named, " Outer circle. " ; And the things that we can control into a group named, " Inner cicle. ".


Inner circle :
Things that we are able to control.

Usally ourselves.


Outer circle :

Things that we are not able to control.

Usually others.


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Now, you should have get a little bit idea about what this whole thing is about.

Let me explain briefly,
Sometimes something happen to you ( Outer circle ) and you have the power over your emotions and reaction to it ( Innner circle ) which will usually affect the thing that happened to change ( Outer circle ).

To be exact,
Everyone have the power to change the Outer circle, and change the things that happen to them. It'll just take a longer step, which you'll have to control your Inner circle first.
My point is, control yourself first and react to the situation in the best way you can find, with that the situation will actually change.

Let me give you an example,

Imagine that you have a naggy parent and they always nag at you at the slightliest thing. Then in the normal situation, you would be getting irritated and probably yelling back at them which would make things worst off.
Now, in the same scenario you have your parents nagging at you, you just keep quiet and listen. In your mind, imagine that they are just singing songs. Trust me, they quiet down after awhile. Why is that so? It's simple, it's bcause you'll be in better control of your emotions. Remember control your emotions first before attempting to negotiate about anything. With your emotions under control, the chances of everything being smoothe sailing will be higher.

Trust me as long as you attempt to control your inner circle in the positive way, the outer circle will change.
People always say that they can't choose the environment they are in.
I don't buy that.
I believe that everybody can choose how they behave in the environment and thus affecting how others behave in the environment too. Then, slowly the whole environment will change too!

Of course it takes alot of discipline in that, however it's all going to reflect upon how mucgh you want to change everything.



With that,

I link back to a quote.


" For things to change, I must change first. "




I hope this post would be helpful.




Signing off,

ALVARO方振宇